if you need a durable log (which it sounds like you do for if you're going with event sourcing) that has those features, i'd suggest apache pulsar. you effectively get streams with message queue semantics (per-message acks, retries, dlq, etc.) from one system. it supports many different 'subscription types', so you can use it for a bunch of different use cases. running it on your own is a bit of a beast though and there's really only one hosted provider in the game (streamnative)

note that kafka has recently started investing into 'queues' in KIP-932, but they're still a long way off from implementing all of those features.