Why is the graviational strength proportional to the radius?
Firstly, you have to know that the field strength is zero inside a hollow sphere. This is part of that shell theorem.
So for a point at a given depth inside the sphere, we can divide the sphere into a hollow sphere consisting of everything less deep, and a solid sphere consisting of everything deeper. Only the deeper sphere matters; we can ignore the hollow sphere.
So as we progress toward the centre, the attraction is due to a smaller and smaller sphere, whose mass is proportional to r^3. The radius is shrinking though, which has the effect of increasing gravity: the gravitational field strength is proportional to 1/r^2. Wen we combine these factors, we get r.