Truth is men are responsible for most violence, most rape, most sexual assault, serious injury or death.

It is also important to remember that most perpetrators are men != most men are perpetrators.

And, the truth is also that women commit abuse at about the same rate as men. They are just as likely to abuse their kids, their partners, or their family. That abuse is just more likely to show up as emotional or coercive rather than physical.

For example, you could imagine a world where men are significantly more likely than women to commit DV, making some subset of that 28.5% men who have suffered at the hands of other men. It would also imply that gay women are less likely to experience DV, which would widen the gap further. That said, I believe many more couples are hetero than not, so maybe it wouldn't make much of a difference.

To be clear, I'm not making this specific claim about men, just illustrating that I think the statistic quoted doesn't _directly_ justify the claim "women aren't that much less likely to offend" (although it does lend credence to it)

Some quantification is needed here to make this list have any meaning. Rape stands alone, but physical violence and stalking can mean a lot in terms of damage and threat level. A single slap falls under the same general category of physical violence as a full-on fist beating. Stalking can be showing up the gym at their scheduled time, or it can be camping outside of their house.

This is absolutely the wrong statistic to apply.

This discusses the lifetime risk of ANY IPV event and does not even limit this to people who have children.

But despite being the wrong statistic, there’s 25% increase in lifetime risk for women over men