I didn't really get into it in my initial comment because it sort of feels like it's besides the point, but I agree "ban" and "please avoid" are different words that mean different things, and the Trump admin did not "ban" these words. I think the comparison avoiding "illegal alien" and "climate change" is quite similar, as the administrations were trying to direct department culture through removing speech they view as political. It's another great reason why we should not depend on government for societal guidance.
And I'm at work right now but you can search for "biden admin ban word women/female/mother/etc". You may not be able to use google because they remove a lot of links to conservative outlets (I like yandex for this kind of search, although I haven't searched enough to know whether they're the best).