if there's no tech/startup meetup for your city, then start one. That's what we did in St. Louis -

http://meetup.com/startlouis

http://meetup.com/codeuntildawn-stlouis

http://stljs.org

Pick the topic you're most passionate about (or that would bring the types of people you want to meet) and make it happen. Pretty soon, they become friends. Pure motivational curry

Also - listen to the Lifestyle Business Podcast and This Week in Startups, and read the 4HWW at least once a year. My 2 cents