You seem to have hit all the bad luck and concluded (fairly) that anything but Apple must be bad. I seem to have hit all the bad luck on the Apple side. The device I got from work ran out of updates after fewer years than I privately use my Android, and not before the touchscreen partially broke, various apps had software issues that didn't manifest on other (identical) phones, the battery went bad, and certain OS features like hotspot didn't work half the time you tried to turn them on. I've simply never had these issues on Android, and if e.g. an app doesn't work, I can just wipe its data. On iOS there's no such button; it's not something you should need because in 95+% of cases "it just works" and so they don't let you. It's not your device
Currently I'm trying to help an Apple user whose email client broke, both on iOS and macOS, with unexplainable "could not connect" behavior that no other user is seeing (Windows, Android, and Linux all represented). It differs whether they use mobile data or WiFi, but in different ways on different OSes and email clients. Sometimes IMAP works partially (connecting, fetching mail, but not loading folders). I'll probably have to travel 90 minutes each way to see what I can debug on their device. They're tech savvy and we're both perplexed by the different behaviors but there isn't much you can see on iOS so we had given up on mobile email. Now that it's happening on macOS as well suddenly, maybe we can figure something out
It's just not a vendor I'd want to work with myself because there keep being major issues with very limited ways of fixing them. I'm sure most of the functions "just work", just like most Android phones "just work" and you hit a bad apple with that Sony device. At least on Sony you can install a different OS if the issues are major enough that people put in the effort of making one