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My opinion of those is what I think of as the seal out of water effect. You wouldn't think a seal as a powerful and graceful animal if you only saw them out of the water. Most people on dating apps are like seals out of water.

What's the app for dating seals in water?

Slowly building up context with people like coworkers and classmates over years.

No I meant actual seals.

The inequality on dating apps is very high. Their Gini coefficients vary from 0.4 to 0.6 on most popular dating apps. Even if 100% of people were using dating apps, only the top percentiles of men would be satisfied because they can get way more short-term partners than they could without the apps.

To the extent hookups lead to relationships, it's coming from people that are willing to settle

Sex doesn't equal intimacy, at least in the way people really want. Modern dating apps turn sex into a transaction, a one night stand on tap.

I've had several meaningful relationships that were the results of dating apps, including my current 8-year one. And that one was from one of the "modern" apps you speak of.