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> Men want to marry a feminine woman, not a woman acting like a man.

Your understanding of feminism is not right. It isn’t about women behaving like men.

This sounds like an Andrew Tate analysis.

You should address some deep seated insecurity there. I’m currently in a country in Central Europe and have been to a traditional festival and the traditional garments are REALLY not modest lol

Traditional is not the same conservative or modesty.

> Where I might get the most pushback: marrying someone from a significantly different culture is difficult.

So are many other things that are worth doing.

I have not noticed women dressing more sexually in the last 30 years or so. I've seen a lot of articles suggesting that women's fashion has remained largely stagnant since the 90s.

Observe for yourself. Go to any gym or mall. Walk near a school or college. It's definitely not stagnant since the 90's.

Don’t confuse security in oneself and confidence with “commanding”. They are not the same thing at all.

Women and men both want the former.

> women weaponizing sex against men by initially advertising their assets, then withholding them unless they can control their men

You need to spend more time with women who are emotionally mature. What you describe is childish behavior.

Keep in mind emotionally mature people will have less tolerance for bullshit or anti-social behavior.

feminism is just the act of valuing yourself as a feminine person. I can't see any reason why a man WOULDN'T want that.

> Sure, at first everyone wants her, but many men don't want to marry and raise a family if mom publicly dresses/acts to attract other men's attention.

I think you’re projecting some pretty heavy misogyny here.

It would seem that way, but I absolutely love women. Who wouldn't?

> but I absolutely love women. Who wouldn't?

Women, they tend to love men.

Some of them love some men, certainly.

> Testosterone creates tension and a commanding attitude. Men naturally don't want to marry a feminist.

Always the most pathetic and fragile men that say this shit.

If you're worried about the mom of your kids leaving for someone else, you have much larger issues than the clothes your wife is wearing.

Yes obviously the clothes are a surface level indication of a deeper problem.

So, err, what problem do you think this indicates? Heaven forbid folks should wear clothes that make them feel good.

Holy hell, you start with misogyny, enter into gender essentialism, veer straight back into misogyny tinged with incel, and end with a screed on racism.

Maybe these are some thoughts you should go to therapy for.

> This is why diversity is not always a strength.

Yikes

lol, expected response. I'm not laughing at you though. The difference in branches of liberal vs "conservative" psychology schools is being highlighted in your comment. I know many licensed and experienced therapists who would agree with me, albeit with different wording. Likewise, there are many therapists who would agree with you.

> I know many licensed and experienced therapists who would agree with me…

Name them please. I am unable to read up or understand this ideology from a professional otherwise.

I will not name them, to protect their careers from possible harassment. It's not a small number though.

Then i’d like to inform you that I know the same number that you know plus one that think otherwise. You use these professionals in your comment to highlight how mainstreams your views are but will not provide any information. I stated I was open to researching this train of thought more, but you are not interested in helping people understand your point of view. Surely there is a site on the internet that shares your worldview. Please share a name of a community that you feel consists of users that are aligned with your believe structure.

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