For me the only people I'm looking at with disgust is those who were using said app... it was a gossip cesspool with no way to verify any of the claims being said and a breeding pool for hateful posts against people you dislike.
The meme floating around of "I joined a site to dox and spread personal info about people got hacked and now my personal information is being spread around waahhahaaa" is pretty damn accurate and makes me not feel bad for them at all.
Of course, in reality such behavior is rarely conductive to anything good; I guess they got what's coming.
The whole concept of dating apps is so toxic, shallow and just plain bad. It's like choosing people as if they were products on a shelf.
I have no idea why many hateful minds meet in places like that you mention; maybe it is some specific interactions that spark the noxious emotions, but I am no expert. It is similar to highschool extremely cool kid circles and fraternities, only for reverse reasons (alone together vs in a group)
Now the Village Crazy can find others with their exact flavour of crazy online and think that it's cool and everyone is doing it. Then they get deeper and deeper into their crazy, maybe transitioning into other flavours of crazy.
The app would be banned within a few seconds and 90% of people here would celebrate it.
Majority of people assume the following:
1. Men don't deserve to have private spaces
2. Men can't be victims of abuse (sexual, physical or else)
3. Men don't need to be protected from toxic relationships
4. Women don't need to ask men for consent
Men here refers to all men, including trans men, homosexuals, bisexuals, heterosexuals, etc.
Perhaps, it's time that we have an honest discussion about the realities of living in the world as a man in 2025.
If you're reading this and find my comment in bad taste, or that it frustrates you, I highly encourage that you take sometimes and introspect as to why you feel that way.
Worse than that, if you speak against any of the nonsense coming to you, you are extra bad. And they are surprised that fertility has fallen all over the place, seems like intended objective to me.
Its not perfect of course, neither am I.
But centering your ideological bubble is its own form of toxicity that is enabled by the internet.
Such as? Are any of those disagreements ideological?
If that all sounds too non-spicy, well, even mentioning the smaller things like JS vs TS on a mainstream Reddit page got people calling me a moron and my comment hidden because the score got too low. If I said it on a different page, maybe it would've been +100 score and everyone disagreeing with me booted instead, but that's not any better. Learned quickly not to bother with there.
HN isn't really a place for plain political discussions, so I don't participate in those. They do exist though, and end up getting locked. I'd probably be more right-wing than most.
Also using reddit as a baseline is like using a cesspool tank as a baseline of sanitation.
So what is your non-cesspool forum example that isn't Reddit? Twitter seemingly got taken over by bots early on, Facebook pages were a disaster at least when I was in college, and those are the big ones.
X optimizes for engagement and as studies have shown, that means optimizing for rage bait.
Reddit optimizes for rage bait too but includes a voting system that hides unpopular opinions, so any person that conflicts with the majority is marginalized. So on top of being full of rage bait, its an echo-chamber and that is before even talking about the powermod problem.
HN is much like reddit in style, so fundamentally HN also tends towards an echo chamber.
And by echo chamber, I mean a cringe circle jerk: a New Yorker article called it "performative erudition".
Gotta say though, it's rich hearing this from New Yorker.
Workmates, family, people of the streets and in shops. just so much angry toxic people. it's like a cultural change (am in Australia btw).
its not everybody but its a definitely larger number than I remember in the past few decades.
There's also the fact that the big story in the USA right now is how some app got hacked exposing everyones IDs and the big story in the UK right now is that they want everyone to enforce ID verification for literally everything and they want people to think this is somehow safe and not just a time bomb waiting to blow
Don't try to brag about something that doesn't exist please