I haven't run into a scenario where the desktop has caused me issues, only with Windows-only software that I sometimes require. What software has caused you issues that doesn't play nicely with Debian? What hacks are in place to mitigate upstream issues? I'm honestly curious, and if you don't use Debian, what distribution do you use regularly?
At work I usually have to spend 6 hours per day to fix random Ubuntu issues on code which works fine on Fedora. Usually Ubuntu 20 and 22.
That's some hyperbole. If I spent 6 hours a day fixing some distro's issues, that would be my whole job. I would begin questioning whether I'm "holding it wrong" or if it is the wrong tool for the job.
I also left Ubuntu because of their shenanigans, but if your code cannot run on Debian, your code is shit.
But it happens everyday