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It's broadly true though. It doesn't apply to all of us but as a group it's a thing.

Personally it's not for me, I'm a heterosexual male but I get on far better with women and find men's spaces intimidating.

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I used to feel the same way as you but then I discovered I was wasn't really getting on well in female dominated groups after-all. It's all smiles and pleasantries on the surface but you're not one of them and aren't part of their gossip, but can quickly become the subject of it. If they really are trusting you with their gossip and speculations about other members then perhaps you truly can assimilate. There's also talking about sex which women do with each other far more readily than with men.

With my current close friends I get included in far more gossip than I care to be and know the intimate details of past partners, kinks, fantasies etc.

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