I'd only expect security issues to result from being overly liberal but 1. I wouldn't expect it to be very common and 2. I'm not at all convinced that's a compelling argument to reduce the robustness of an implementation.
open source something?
It's not related to open source software. The seemingly matching prefix is coincidence :-)
For example for networking you can have packets sent using TCP or UDP, but actually there could be any number of protocols used. But for decades it was literally only ever those two. Then when QUIC came about, they couldn't implement it at the layer it was meant to be because all the routers and software were not built to accept anything other than TCP or UDP.
There's been a bunch of thought in to how to stop this stuff like making sure anything that can change, regularly does. Or using encryption to hide everything from routers and software that might want to inspect and tamper with it.
Suppose you get a message that violates the standard. It has a length field for a subsection that would extend beyond the length of the entire message. Should you accept this message? No, burn it with fire. It explicitly violates the standard and is presumably malicious or a result of data corruption.
Now suppose you get a you don't fully understand. It's a DNS request for a SRV record but your DNS cache was written before SRV records existed. Should you accept this message? Yes. The protocol specifies how to handle arbitrary record types. The length field is standard regardless of the record type and you treat the record contents as opaque binary data. You can forward it upstream and even cache the result that comes back without any knowledge of the record format. If you reject this request because the record type is unknown, you're the baddies.
There are many cases where the RFC is not at all ambiguous about what you're supposed to do, and then some implementation doesn't do it. What should you do in response to this?
If you accept their garbage bytes, things might seem less broken in the short term, but then every implementation is stuck working around some fool's inability to follow directions forever, and the protocol now contains an artificial ambiguity because the bytes they put there now mean both what they're supposed to mean, and also what that implementation erroneously uses them to mean, and it might not always be detectable which case it is. Which breaks things later.
Whereas if you hard reject explicit violations of the standard then things break now and the people doing the breaking are subject to complaints and required to be the ones who stop doing that, rather than having their horkage silently and permanently lower the signal to noise ratio by another increment for everyone else.
One of the main problems here is that people want to be on the side of the debate that allows them to be lazy. If the standard requires you to send X and someone doesn't want to do the work to be able to send X then they say the other side should be liberal in what they accept. If the standard requires someone to receive X and they don't want to do the work to be able to process X then they say implementations should be strict in what they accept and tack on some security rationalization to justify not implementing something mandatory and thereby break the internet for people who aren't them.
But you're correct that there is no IETF court, which is why we need something in the way of an enforcement mechanism. And what that looks like is to willingly cause trouble for the people who violate standards, instead of the other side covering for their bad code.
And, if your project is on GitHub, gets your Issues page absolutely clowned on because you're choosing to do the right thing technically and the leeching whiners shitting up the Issues don't want to contribute a goddamn thing other than complaints, and they definitely don't want to go to the authors of the thing that doesn't work with your stuff and try and get that fixed either.
Something like "this page is best viewed in Internet Explorer" as applied to HTML.