The fact that so many people are turning their homes into mini power plants is less a triumph of individualism and more a symptom of a broken system
Another way of saying that, if we were playing a city simulator as a disembodied beneficent dictator you'd want distributed generation and storage as part of your grid.
In reality there's all sorts of complications, compromises, trade-offs, graft and politics but on balance those factors are working against distributed solar which is succeeding despite them.
Some people have a knee-jerk reaction to anything that requires legislation, regulation or subsidies which clouds the issue though.
You could build fireproof mini storage substations in blocks or subdivisions to load shift, but taking a chunk out of everyone’s garage space and forcing every person to do inverter and battery maintenance is silly.