I think there's a nuanced conversation to be had about ciswomen-exclusive shelters for abuse victims, because as much as a transwoman is a woman, depending on the stage of their transition, they can be unfortunately very man-like which can trigger women who have been the victims of violence committed by men. That's unfortunate, important, and it matters, however that real issue is being drowned in a sea of misgendering and nonsensical reactionary hate for people already dealing with systemic abuse.
If you cannot assert your womanhood without trying to tear other's away like so many crabs in a bucket, you lose the right to be confused when said others tell you to get bent.