But there is a fine line between having general understanding of the details of what's going on inside your system and using that knowledge to do very much premature optimizations and getting stuck in a corner that is hard to get out of. Large parts of our industry are in such a corner.
It's fun to nerd out about memory allocators, but that's not contributing to overall improvements of software engineering as a craft which is still too much ad hoc hacking and hoping for the best.
I'm sorry, but it is. Understanding memory layout and (sometimes) using custom allocators can improve performance in ways that no compiler cannot do automatically. And when used correctly they contribute to code correctness too. This is the reason they are used in projects like Chromium.
Regarding your car analogy, you have to remember that developers here are not driving the car: they're building the car. Understanding the differences between and ICE engine and an electric motor are very salient to designing a good car.
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Actually I do, and I include the inertia and momentum of every piece of the drive-train as well, and the current location of the center of gravity. I'm thinking about all of these things through the next predicted 5 seconds or so at any given time. It comes naturally and subconsciously. To say nothing of how you really aren't going to be driving a standard transmission without that mental model.
Your analogy is appropriate for your standard American whose only experience with driving a car is the 20 minute commute to work in an automatic, and thus more like a hobbyist programmer or a sysadmin than someone whose actual craft is programming. Do you really think truckers don't know in their gut what their fuel burn rate is based on how far they've depressed the pedal?