This thing about the questions. She's probably hot and they probably don't get much female interest, so she's already won them over and they aren't evaluating her further. Having standards as a man who is already in very low demand feels like a good way to shoot yourself in the foot with statistics (yet ironically it works in your favor as you can see in this example). Most people in general though don't actually know what they're looking for. They haven't thought about it, read about it and probably aren't exerienced enough to even figure it out, so there's nothing really for these men to investigate about her even if she hadn't already won them over by her looks and their desperation.

Then there's also the fact that men just don't need to be that picky. Pregancy is expensive and dangerous for women. It costs nothing for a man to walk away from a shitty woman at any point (unless they get married without a prenup I guess).

She talks about running empathy models (jeez cringe, typical rationalist BS) but seems to have no insight into men and what their situation and concerns are. Not that I'm condoning these guys' stupidity. Clearly they need to figure this shit out and get some game, but it shouldn't be surprising that they haven't yet.

For her though, I think things would go better with some of them if she spent more time with them. They need to warm up and realize the situation is safe. Some are literally scared of her and don't know what they're doing. She doesn't seem to understand why or what to do about it.

But yeah for them, the main problem is they're just trying to impress her, which is boring. Flip the script, see if she will impress you. To do that though, you'll have to know what you want.

Tip though: women want to feel safe around you. Trying to impress them (i.e. trick them into liking you by selectively only showing your good side (i.e. deception)), not caring about who and how they are, etc. does not engender those feelings. Take her word for it.