For the record, I am to the left of U.S. democrats in most respects. To say that what I expressed above is a far-right dog-whistle or that the left does not have problems with disagreeing in a civil manner is just plain wrong.
Case in point: Go take a look at the recent history of Canada's federal Green party. Several years ago, its leader stepped down and the party imploded over their views on Israel and Gaza. (This was well before the current conflict went hot.) What does a conflict in the middle East have to do with a political party focused on environmentalism in Canada you ask? Nothing at all, but the disagreement still tore the party apart. Both sides of the conflict could not tolerate opposing views existing within their peers. It turned into an ugly open feud. Elizabeth May had to return from retirement and take control again to stop things. She remains co-Leader (but really leader).
Polite disagreement and understanding the other side, even while you disagree with it, is something everyone struggles with.