I meant F-4s, but you are right, Iran also has F-14s, and it turns out F-5s too [1].
> when were F-14s built, and when were F-35s built, and has anything changed between those times?
I'm guessing that you're trying to say that new technology is many time more complex than old technology, so it is easier to place kill switches. If, for example, the CPU in my computer has some sort of hidden fuse that one day blows, my computer is dead, and there's nothing I can do to fix it. But since the F-4s, F-5s and F-14s did not have chips, or if they did, they were much simpler, then it follows that they can't have kill switches, while the F-35 can.
There are two problems with this argument (maybe that's not the argument you are trying to make, but your question is a bit oblique, so I'll go with this interpretation).
The first problem is that the F-4s, F-5s and F-14s were extraordinarily cutting edge machines for their time. They continue to be even today. They are all supersonic, and they all exceed the top speed of F-35, two of them by a lot (Mach 2.2 vs Mach 1.6). The kill switch for such a machine is the engine itself. The turbine blades in an engine that can reach Mach 2 are some of the most advanced pieces of technology ever created. If one such blade develops a crack, it is probably as good as gone. Somehow Iran manages to maintain the jets in working condition.
The second problem is that you did not consider Israel. Israel operates F-35s. Their situation in the Middle East is so dangerous that they would not tolerate a kill switch. I am not privy to what they do, but I imagine the contract with Lockheed Martin and the US was that there should not be any kill switches, or if there are, they should be disclosed. I'm sure they did their due diligence and found whatever kill switches were placed in contravention of the contract, and they have contingency plans just in case they are activated. Germany can negotiate a similar contract, and develop similar contingency plans.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islamic_Republic_of_Iran_Air_F...