I’m in the same boat! I wouldn’t say I feel depressed though, I’d say strained. There’s no “me” time.

The thing that keeps me going (besides love for my family) is a little bit of hope. How can you take small steps toward a more balanced place today?

Do you know what self care you need? How can you start making time for it? Can your wife / parents / in law help? Can you hire someone? Or can you combine stuff?

For a while (before I fell off wagon), I was jogging with my kiddo so I took one task (watching kid) and knocked out 3 birds with it (watching kid, giving kid outside time, exercising)

Another one: I want to start eating more healthy. And my kid doesn’t eat vegetables on his own. So during his meal times I started eating a bowl of veggies with him. I eat veggies, and he will often start eating with me too. Win / win.

It’s the small things that help me get through.

How old are your kids? I found it was really tough for me until they hit around age 3 or 4. Getting them into school helped enormously. As they grew older it became easier for me to reason with them and they also became more capable of taking care of themselves and even helping me with some things.

I know it doesn’t feel good on the spot, but as a single hopeless man, I can tell you that having children is meaning.

If only because the world doesn’t listen to single men. So, enjoy your glimpse of power. Repeat your life day after day, and you will understand one day.