If I can list out the issues you have mentioned, just to get a picture first:
- Burnout in current job.
- No alternative jobs you want.
- No appetite for job hunting.
- House is gone.
- Wife is gone.
These are big problems - too big for someone to solve alone. First step is to find someone trusted who can support you. Whether it's a friend, family member or a professional. If they aren't available, a local support group. And if that isn't available, find a pro bono service online. You need someone checking in with you and helping you put a plan together over the next few months.
Next step is to prioritise the list. What MUST be fixed right away? Create a plan for each item.
After you have a plan, you potentially need some time to execute. Think about taking extended leave, a break for a few weeks. You need time and space to stop the spiral.