Yes yes, I understand marginalized people need to find each other. Alternative options like Mastodon already solve that problem better than Facebook because they aren’t owned by Big Tech/the US government.
Maybe my family DOES also communicate via Facebook and I am just missing out on it... I genuinely wouldn't know. But I don't feel disconnected.
Get off Facebook!
It really doesn't though. You remove trivial inputs from distant acquaintances, old co-workers, 5th cousins, and all manner of other individuals you'd traditionally have no input from. Meaningful relationships survive bailing on social media.
That hasn't been my experience at all. All of the other methods of communication still exist. What FB gives is greater convenience, but not using it doesn't cut me out of anything. Not even those things where FB is the primary way people organize.
Them not being owned by Big Tech/government does not make them a better solution to the problem. It's a benefit (to some, not all), but if you're trying to recruit "normies" away from social media to, well, a different social media, then that should not be the first bullet point.