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How about the other side of this -

“Be a 2%er”

Don’t drain energy from the people you interact with. Gas them up. Be an active listener. Give more than you take. Contribute meaningfully to a strong relationship. Etc…many ways to possibly interpret this

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There isn't another side, it's a description of the relationship (the edge), not one side of the relationship (the node).

People are compatible or they are not, largely.

Like USB vs lightning? People are compassionate about people or they not.

I’m very confused, is lightning compassionate?

Haha I’m trying to understand the analogy too. I think usb is compassionate though, since it’s the more universally adopted of the two standards.

You're assuming that a 2%er is a quality of the person, not a property of the relationship of two people. That just seems wrong.

You're assuming that a 2%er is a real thing as opposed to something blogs publish on a slow news day.

Some people are clearly more popular than other people.

Is it a bad thing to strive to be a (effective, key here that may you don’t have in mind) supply of energy for others, rather than a drain? Why?

It's not universal. The things that you do that energize some people will drain other people.

Seems a good way to turn everyone else into a 98-er% if you're constantly trying to play the part of some energetic super 2%er

It's not about being energetic, it's about matching the person you're interacting with. They might not want energetic.

Still, not everyone's cup of tea, trying to be another person's 2%er.

If you’re trying to match other people instead of being yourself, you’re a problem for many people. It’s why a significant portion of the population hates sales people.

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