If you’re good looking, you’re not going to be wasting time on apps
These days, saying hi seems to be risky for more reasons than rejection. Maybe more so if you’re not good looking. Hence the apps
These days, saying hi seems to be risky for more reasons than rejection. Maybe more so if you’re not good looking. Hence the apps
However I believe it also boils down to personality traits too.
Saying "Hi" isn't enough. One needs to be creative to stand out from the field. Women get absolutely swamped on the apps.
Women who are swamped on dating apps are not swamped with attention from men in real life.
They see this discrepancy, and instinctively interpret that as the dating site being a space where all the world's desperate losers have gathered.
You don't need to stand out, just not stand in that same place.
Its actually not, and that so many guys believe that just leaves the field unguarded
What women say online about not wanting to be approached practically anywhere is a vocal minority, and other women don't even see these conversations
Positive interactions with men are not even categorized as the ones that annoyed them, despite the interaction being the exact same. so it remains up to you to figure out where you are on that totem pole
its important that everyone else knows this has no bearing on whether they can approach at all, and simply choose not to stalk, assault, molest.
the issue (and proof) is the lack of accountability to those that harassed you, lots of guys believe they will be marked as one of those harassers from simply saying hi. when its much more likely thats not so, and the issue becomes the lack of accountability for the person overfitting and accusing in their attempt to filter out actual harassers
we can create accountability in both scenarios.
This applies to when you approach girls cold. If you're really hot it's a different game, girls will just give you that look when you're walking around on the street, at the mall, etc, and if you walk up and say hi to them they will fuck you if you play it cool at all.
Many women are pretty traumatized by the captive situation logic, because a lot of guys do that and its pretty obvious. Like a beggar on the street “asking a question” and you already know to ignore it but want to give the benefit of the doubt that its not about money
Manufacturing social integration is a deep but fairly simple topic that many people find attractive, but it nullifies the need to try to prolong an interaction with a woman and is pretty much the opposite. where essentially you’re too cool and have too much going on to entertain her. if you’re interested in women, plural, it doesnt have to be hard or a coveted thing with much work behind it. and you’re not putting her in a captive situation so your already ahead of the pack
honestly most attraction are gender neutral concepts that work with business partners and relationship partners a like