You both miss the point completely. What I mean is that just by being resentful, you don't achieve the outcome that you want to achieve (not the outcome that they want to achieve).

The only way to achieve the outcome you want, is for someone to do the work. They're not going to do it. If you'd rather keep being resentful rather than do the work towards your own claimed desired outcome, then apparently you don't really value the outcome you so claim to desire; you value being resentful more.