People say they don't last, but I have had an incredible amount of difficulty getting regular tips tinned and conducting heat efficiently.
No combination of tip tinner, flux or cleaner has ever fully resolved it for me.
If your iron cannot support a regular tip, it's likely that it cannot get enough power to the tip to sustain the heat being pulled from it (copper will just expedite this). You can try a beefier tip (or load up a tip with wet solder which can kinda give the same effect) or you can get a higher power iron.
I've been soldering for 15 years with all manner of irons, I've never needed a copper tip, but I often need more than your standard hakko or weller. 400C on a the hakko is not at all close to being equal to 400C on a Metcal for instance.
The symptoms are pretty obvious: even if the iron was underpowered, melting a thin piece of solder wire should be pretty much instant. My issue has just always been getting the tip to a shiny solder finish with all the recommended tools...just doesn't work once that iron layer oxidizes initially.
EDIT: Although thinking about this now, actually the way you get rid of mill-scale is with white vinegar so maybe that's my actual answer: white vinegar for a couple hours, then rosin flux and then into the solder bath. Hopefully won't remove the entire iron coating on the tip since otherwise...copper tips again.
I wouldn't want to do the above too often and it's probably not the recommended way, but I seem to have gotten away with it by not being too rough with the screwdriver. Potentially worth a try if the tip is a write off otherwise.
Once it is tinned, clean and tin the tip before turning off after every use (but you probably already know that).
Ended up reviving the tip with very careful application of 600 grit sandpaper. Not as good as new, but got at least a few years of use on it.
Literally everyone who gets one goes “oh so that’s what soldering is supposed to be like”
Also might be crap solder. Get some decent Felder or Multicore stuff. Leaded is easier to work with and harmless if you wash your hands and don’t lick your PCBs. Silver bearing leaded from Felder is what I tend to use. But it’s about $70 a roll
Edit: I see that you have a Hakko. Buy genuine tips. Or replace it with a different iron. The cheaper Hakkos are terrible.