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It's the only one you choose to believe.
> I don’t really understand what’s stopping others from suffering through discomfort to get used to it and not see it as discomfort anymore
I wouldn't call it ableist to assume that everybody is just like you. People are different. You wouldn't say "if only everyone suffered through reading this physics book, they'd surely understand the glory of physics, and become physicists".
Or "if only someone would just read my religion's book, then obviously they'd instantly become a devout follower of my particular god?".
It all seems profoundly ignorant, naive, lacking both empathy and theory of mind.
Similarly, I simply cannot comprehend how something as tedious as partying with dozens of people you hardly even know can not be so mentally taxing.
But that's fine. We don't need to comprehend how it works in others. We just need to accept that it does indeed work in different ways for different people, and treat them accordingly, as we ourselves wish to be treated by those who can't comprehend how it works for us.
It's not because of some weird attitude about wasting energy on having a good time. Quite the opposite; once you reach your limit, it becomes wasting mental energy on not having a good time.
I would recommend taking a deep breath and just consider for a second that some people are just different than you.
Introvert social recipe, mileage may vary
1. Cozy room, moody lighting
2. Nice vinyl (harder to pause ). You'll probably want a print out of the lyrics if applicable
3. Maybe some projected visualizations or visualizations on a TV
4. Vibe
5. Discussion time at the end will vary, but idk, it's still fun to me to sit around cool people and have a mutual experience that doesn't require talking, so that's enough for me. It's also an opportunity to have them suggest a new album to listen to next time, but you also have to accept you might not get immediate feedback because they want to spend more time thinking about it.
Think of basically anything else that doesn't require talking and you can spend time with an introvert doing that. Part of what makes them uncomfortable in social situations is feeling pressure to say something when they have nothing to say. Allow the silence to happen.
You do have to have introvert break out rooms at parties. A sound machine drowns out the noise. No extraverted behavior in the break out room! Extraverts who can't respect the boundary don't get another invitation.
Oh and of course extraverts should know better than anyone that sometimes people just don't like you and that's ok. That's one downside of hanging out with some extraverts... extravert-on-extravert violence is pretty exhausting.
The best thing you can do for comprehending an introvert is realize that not all social interactions have to fit your preconceived notion of what a social interaction is.
Unhelpful.
> I simply cannot comprehend how something as enjoyable as spending time with people you like can be so mentally taxing?
It's not a perfect analogy, but you might as well blame people for eventually needing to sleep.
It's super enjoyable to be awake. What could possibly make you want to stop what you're doing, only to go into a dark room and do NOTHING for eight whole hours?!
Some people are also tortured by silence, and they simply MUST talk non stop. To other people, never just having a quiet moment is torture. Are you the former? If you never again in your life had two awake seconds without someone talking, would that be heaven or hell?
> I tend to think that it’s because of the attitude that implies that the one has to waste mental energy on having a good time.
You said "I simply cannot comprehend[…]". How about you stick to that, instead of baselessly saying introverts must simply have an attitude problem?