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1. Networking and keeping contacts. Not LinkedIn which I have found to be completely useless and full of lunatics and weirdos. Good old fashioned email and exchanging details when you work with other people. Check in with people occasionally to remind them you still exist. I have to turn work away.

2. Mostly bullshitting people then winging it.

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On the contrary, I get a decent chunk of my work through LinkedIn. I only get a few messages a month, most from recruiters, but occasionally there's decent work in there too. Maybe two or three opportunities a year, which, if I took all of them, would be all I needed.

I don't actually use LinkedIn except to update my profile every year or so, and to make follow people in my industry.

What’s the best way to check in? I feel kind of inauthentic when I do it.

I guess just be upfront?

"Hey James, I see you are working at Microsoft in Azure Compute and I am interested in breaking into that too. Would it be possible to go for coffee or catch up on Zoom?"

You may have to remind them how they know you if it has been a while :).

Keep it short. Unless you know they like a long email!

Why would anyone respond to that? I haven't talked to you in 15 years and barely knew you. Looks like you are working at Google, I want a job there too. Lets catch up on zoom.

If any past coworker I liked wanted to get lunch I'm up for it. For me it's not yet exceeded 8 years back so I guess I can't demonstrate that yet :). I also get a referral bonus so I do want to refer people!

I don’t think I’ve ever had communication with past coworker after my last day of work there. Maybe once or twice.

Because it is not zero sum and some people are up for this. I wouldn't say no unless it was someone I wanted to avoid. And that is very few people.

You made me laugh though!

We live in a world full of uncertainty. When someone you know is in a current need, helping that person is one way to hedge against the uncertainty of the future. Who knows, one day you may need such help too...

That's why this advice is common. It's important to be clear about the reasons for reaching out.

Thanks. Should you check in periodically when you don’t want anything too? That’s where I struggle most.

Check in when you care to. No less frequently.

I've made a habit of just cold calling my friends because I thought of them. I'll usually end up talking to them for an hour or more, even if I had nothing I specifically wanted to talk to them about. Just "hey I was just thinking about you and thought it would be good to catch up, how've you been?" Something like that.

Unless you are a very close friend that kind of call would raise about 10 red flags for me.

Pre SMS / high connectivity this would have been common. Someone rings the house phone and that's your evening gone.

That's fine. If I care I care.

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