Of course I have strategies to manage this, and medication helps somewhat. But if I set a deadline for myself I’m never going to keep it.
My girlfriend has ADHD and she mostly only can get things done when there are deadlines outside of her control (e.g. cleaning up when we have visitors). When she wants to do something just for her it can take ages, if it gets done at all.
I would like to help her with this but I don't really know where to start.
I am an inattentive type who skated thru behavioral checks by being the quiet kid who never causes problems. What this really means is I am doing ranked competitive daydreaming and sometimes need to be reminded to exist.
In some cases, time pressure can focus me and get me to a solution faster, but I then need downtime to recharge. I don't think I've worked in that sort of environment since working in food service or at a movie theater.
Deadlines often just stress me because I can't effectively reason about the intervening time.
I'd also be grateful if you could share some of your strategies.