There's no agenda. This is the part that is so frustrating to get across. If this is the agree to disagree point then so be it.
Black people want all the rights and privileges of white people. It's not enough that black and white people are equally entitled to use the bathrooms and drinking fountains of their respective race.
Gay people want all the rights and privileges as straight people. It's not enough that gay and straight people are equally entitled to enter a marriage defined as one man and one woman.
Trans people want all the rights and privileges as cis people. It's not enough that cis and trans people are equally entitled to participate in sports leagues that correspond to their AGAB.
You are the person who is equating gay with sex and trans with genitalia. So obviously you're going to read discussion about issues facing these groups as talking about sex and genitals. Actual trans people would very much like conservatives to stop talking about their genitals.
Dropping the subject is antithetical to them being able to quietly live boring normal lives same as everyone else. It's accepting marginalization. My trans girl friends are just my girlfriends, it's an implementation detail I don't care about. Achieving that socially and legally is together and equal but we aren't there and are trending backwards.