Was being a latchkey kid seen as a good thing generally? I see this article talk about “but there is a dark side” of being a latchkey kid but that doesn’t seem that surprising to me tbh, absent parental figures never seem to be a good thing.
We were largely unsupervised in Baltimore. Was it a good thing that we were autonomous and had the freedom to make mistakes without a guarding there to ensure they were responsible for our mistake..? Maybe. But I don't think any bad came from being a latchkey kid. IMO, SHTF in a kid's teenage years. I think it's way more important to be supervised in the pre-teen/teen years than a youner years. Simply because teenagers get into way more mischief that young kids.
It was a pejorative against kids not growing up in a traditional family, with a breadwinner father, and a stay-at-home homemaker mother, as that was the only family arrangement that was allowed at that time, and any deviation was seen as deviant.
Yes.
When I was 9 or 10 my neighbors and I would grab the $5 our parents left behind for us. We'd walk down to the local hockey/skating rink. Usually pretty early around 8-9am before the warming house opened. We'd skate until noon when the warming house guy closed it and went home for lunch. Three or four of us would then walk to the local BK, eat lunch and hang out until 1pm. We'd then go back and skate until dusk. We'd go home around 6-7 and when we got home our parents would be home, and dinner would be ready where we'd go through each family member and talk about their day.
All through primary school this was the norm. My dad worked at a high tech company was gone usually from 7am sometimes until 7 or 8pm. My mom was taking college courses during the day and sometimes at night to become an attorney. My sister and brother were fine being on our own. The one constant was my mom or dad would get home, change their clothes and start dinner. If both parents were home, I'd go play catch with Dad while Mom made dinner.
We never felt neglected since many of the neighbors were in the same situation so we more often than not would hang out at their house, or get together in the street and play many kinds of sports or if the girls were there, we would play games like red light green light, tag, hide and go seek, kick the can, etc until we all got called home for dinner.
It was more or less just being independent for a while until your parents got home and you had dinner and then you'd do your homework before going to practice or your games. My mom and dad made it a point to be at every game they could. They made sure we were carpooling other kids who's parents were gone or couldn't drive them for whatever reason.
I think there is a huge difference saying parents in this era were neglectful. They weren't, they just had kids who were brought up well enough to stay out of trouble, take of ourselves and our neighbors until our parents would be available again. There were plenty of times where parents of one household would essentially be watching over three or four different families kids while they were out. So it was never neglectful, I like to think it just a community watching out for each other and working together to allow families the time and energy to do what they needed to do to keep their kids feed, clothed and a roof over their head. Nowadays you just hear too many excuses. Back then? There were none, you just did what you had to in order to get by and everybody in my neighborhood chipped in any way they could.
Only by the people who fondly describe their childhood that way. The term itself is very indicative of how the person feels about it.
I think it's mostly seen as an unfortunately economic necessity, but some of those kids grew up and now look back upon that time favorably because the parental neglect let them develop a sense of independence.
Parental neglect is an incredibly strong (and I'd argue biased) word to use here if we're using the articles definition of a latch key kid.
The article says "3.5 million latchkey kids in the U.S., or seven per cent of those between the ages of 5 and 13".
There's a massive difference between a 5 year old being home alone for a few hours each day and a teenager being home alone for a few hours. Even more so if, like it says in the article, there's support systems in place (like a neighbor that can be contacted in case of an emergency) and an established pattern (the kid isn't just unexpectedly home alone).
An 8 year old unexpectedly left home alone for an unknown amount of time without any support system could absolutely be called neglect (although it makes a great Christmas movie), but a 16 year old in an empty house from 2:30-5 every day with a full fridge and friendly neighbors next door is completely reasonable and (IMO) a healthy way to let them develop independence.
> This is a by-now standard Gen X coping mechanism: treating childhood neglect – in this case, taking care of ourselves after school – as a matter of significant pride, part of our generational identity.
I still stand by my point, but now it should be more directed at the author of the article and not the comment I replied to