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> If you aren't cooking and cleaning up after, what's the difference between that and meeting someone at a restaurant?

I wonder if you realise how dystopian your life already is to consider this question reasonable.

There is a difference between a co-located set of siloed people and a community. The inability to recognise this means your community is already broken.

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I suppose our restaurant-going experiences must significantly differ. If I'm going to a restaurant with friends for social interaction, it typically doesn't involve the other people in the restaurant who just happen to be there at the same time as me.

If I wanted that, I would go to a bar instead, which is a separate conversation from the one we were having.

However, I don't think I would be so bold as to call either of our lifestyles 'broken'. That feels like a needless attack.

It's not an attack, and there's no ill will here.

It is accurate, though, and is said with sympathy.

I don't understand the distinction you are making: two couples (4 people) meeting at a restaurant is, to me, equally social as one couple going to another couple's house to eat dinner.

Four people in a public space interacting with the rest of the community is fundamentally different to four people in an isolated silo.

Having to listen to some drunk two tables over matter away is not desirable community interaction.

It’s nice to be able to carry on a conversation somewhere there isn’t a constant din.

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