It's awful, but that's the prisoner's dilemma for you. I have a hard time respecting any anti-nuclear activist who doesn't at least acknowledge this facet of things, even if "no one has nukes and no one can easily get them" really would be best for the world.
[0]: if anyone hasn't seen it before, the interactive https://ncase.me/trust/ on the iterated prisoner's dilemma is excellent
There hasn't been a hot war between nuclear powered states, ever.
This is pretty obviously superior compared with the previous "no nukes" era, that had plenty of hot wars...
But those don’t affect you.
And I’m sure you are 100% convinced that if we could snap our fingers and give all sovereign states nukes then all fighting would stop. So what’s the point.
And if you’re wrong? Then we only risk the permanent destruction of advanced human organization. No biggie.
I don't think this point of view is at all defensible. The "game theory" I am referencing is the most basic thing, the very foundation of that discipline, and if you don't think it is applicable, I posit the following scenario:
Consider the Cold War-era state of affairs (because we seem to be heading back that way, at least a little bit), with the following variations:
A. Nuclear weapons do not exist.
B. USA has nuclear weapons. Russia does not.
C. Russia has nuclear weapons. USA does not.
D. Both USA and Russia have nuclear weapons.
Suppose you're an American. (WLOG, so adjust appropriately.) Now rank those four possible scenarios in order of your personal preference.
Personally, I'd rank C dead last. If you don't... why?
How many nukes does a country need to have readied in order for mutually assured destruction to be relevant? I feel like 100 would be enough to deter any aggression, and if two countries unload their full arsenal at each other would not end life on earth.
Russia and US have closer to 10,000 between them which could pretty much end humanity on any day.
Mutually assured destruction works best when the number of involved parties is limited. If every state were to have a warhead of its own, many risks would increase: those of miscalculation, nuclear proliferation to non-state actors, etc.