Yeah, goes to show that if a person (or ourselves) is struggling with an impairment, a weakness, or a fault, then being compassionate with them (or ourselves) is an act of truthfullness. Its not just "oh you gotta be nice to everyone, just cuz you have to" but rather recognizing that there is a process inside all of us that needs troubleshooting

And depending on the underlying issue a different remedy is needed

> The path to guidance is one of love and compassion, not of force and coercion. -The Bab

So constantly thinking about the failure to the point of forming an identity as a failure isn't helpful. So it can take effort to look past that and instead problem solve on what went wrong and how to correct it in the future

And if the failure happens a hundred thousand times, keeping that positive forward thinking process is itself a meritorious act I believe, since its a step away from being unhelpful to ourselves

That said, I would say that with some actions, e.g. intentionally harming others in a serious and irraparable way, that troubleshooting then requires a punishment from society, but that is also kindness since it helps the offender grow by forcing consequences of their crime on them. But punishment should not be abusive or cruel like it often is today

But yeah, I would say we all have a lot of baggage to let go of to find true freedom, individually and collectively by taking part in genuinely contributing to society in our best possible way

Most of these ideas are inspired by Baha'i teachings, e.g. the Bab and Abdul-Baha, as well as from the book Tiny Habits by B.J. Fogg, and Allen Carr's books about addiction