There are all sorts of domains where mutually-trusted parties need IPC. Off the top of my head and in no particular order:
- Applications that pass validated data to/from captive subprocesses. Not everything is available as a natively-linked library. Not every language's natively-linked libraries are as convenient to reliably install as external binaries.
- Parallelism/server systems farming work out to forked (but not exec'd) subprocesses. Not everything needs setuid. Somtimes you just want to parallelize number crunching without the headache of threads (or are on a platform like Python which limits threads' usefulness).
- Replatforming/language transitions in data-intensive applications. Running the new runtime/platform in the same address space as the legacy platform can bring some hairy complexity, which is sidestepped (especially given the temporary-ness of the transitional state) with careful use of shared memory.
And aren't systems like Postgres counterpoints to your claim? My memory isn't the greatest, but IIRC postgres's server-side connections are subprocesses which interact with the postmaster via shared memory, no?