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Being a man in 2024 is a rather pathetic experience honestly. You constantly feel like a beggar in the dating market. How can you build self-esteem with that? No wonder so many men simply check out.

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You mean being an unattractive man in 2024? It’s probably just as pathetic as it was in 1024. Attractive ones are doing fine, as usual.

I'm average looking, and I've dated and "been" with many women. I'm not even tall (I'm relatively short, in fact, shorter than some women I've been with), nor rich. I should have terrible self esteem, but I don't. That, plus being social and kind to others (and maybe a bit funny) really helps. A lot more than looks alone or money.

Posts like the OP are just incels pushing an agenda.

No, I didn't mean that. I meant being a normal man. Average = unnatractive to women in 2024. Just the way it is.

There is no "dating market". Homo sapiens is a monogamous and patriarchal species. We have the technology to ignore this fact now, but any such attempt is fundamentally working against human biology.

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