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I got mine done at 37, after having two kids, and they still asked me if I was sure.

I can see why you'd be hesitant to do it on a 22-year-old. If you asked me at 22, I'd probably say I don't want kids. But I completely changed my mind as I approached 30.'

Also, vasectomies are less reversible than people think.

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Why not adopt? There are plenty of kids already who need a parent or two.

Why question a human’s innate desire to raise their own off-spring like we’ve evolved to do for millions of years?

So often people chime in with the “just adopt” and while I agree in a perfect world, that’s exactly what would happen, but in reality it goes against a very fundamental part or human nature to opt to raise someone else’s child instead of your own. It just completely misses the human element of why people are so naturally driven have kids and families to begin with.

Plenty of people raise other people’s kids without ever knowing. They didn’t love them less.

Yes, but usually they believe it is their own kid

Because sometimes we need to question "fundamental parts of human nature"

the reality is, most kids you can adopt are severely messed up, due to drug use of parents or poor eating/nutrition of parents.

i guess you are downvoted because it sounds like you say that drug use or poor eating are the main reasons for children to end up in adoption. i don't think that's true, there are many other possible reasons. that said, whatever the reasons are, i fear few children come out unaffected by whatever trauma they experienced which lead to an adoption, with the only exception of children being adopted right at birth.

Pretty sure adoption is very difficult nowadays. Also people do change their minds about having their biologically own kids.

It's difficult and expensive, and my wife and I have no issues conceiving. Why make it even more competitive for people who can't conceive?

I already have two kids.

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