> That's a learned technique for getting assistance. It worked on you, didn't it?
I was going to point out the same thing. A women playing dumb to get help from a man, is not uncommon at all.
I was going to point out the same thing. A women playing dumb to get help from a man, is not uncommon at all.
Just thought I'd share my tales of sexual harassment in the workplace, seemed relevant ;)
And she may have felt, accurately, that she didn't understand the material as well as the OP thought. You can produce a lot of code in a tutorial without knowing enough to produce that architecture yourself.
Personally I think the people who have the clearest view of what they don't know are the ones prepared to learn the fastest. There's a huge difference between "programming is hard!" nonsense that stops people from starting in the first place and "I'm not getting this" consolidations that help a _started_ person figure out what they need to learn.
Anecdotally, a lot of PhDs have impostor syndrome.
What they need probably is a mix of more attention, a kick up the bum, and being encouraged to go and help other people who are less progressed (because that will actually build their confidence.)
The most extreme examples did not last long. Less extreme cases were treated by starting off any request for help with a review of the process and available resources that led the colleague to ask for help from a co-worker. This was done to develop the ability to perform research and empower them to make decisions on their own as long as they had a good basis for it.
Obviously a short training seminar is different, and the expectation is not for the participant to have found the answer on their own, but I believe a short review of their thought process is in order so the instructor can catch any systemic faults in the student's development. That is, don't just tell them what to type, but figure out if they are missing a core competency and perhaps recommend an independent course of study to supplement the seminar.
And people wonder why women don't like male dominated tech events
The fact that you frame it in such a stereotypical way speaks volumes about the attitudes at work here.
Maybe men do similar things when they are confused, or maybe not. I don't know enough about education to comment, but attempting to would be off topic anyways.