No, this doesn't work. The "slower time flows" you is an optical illusion caused by the curvature of spacetime. It is not a way to avoid the formation of a black hole.
No. Your wrong claim about the slowing of time flow has nothing to do with those.
> Have you read the Kerr paper?
Yes. It doesn't say anything like what you were saying. I have commented on it elsewhere in this discussion.
Any GR textbook. I referenced two classic ones elsewhere in this discussion.
Or, for that matter, you could read the classic paper by Oppenheimer and Snyder which was the first published model of actual gravitational collapse to form a black hole. And was published in...1939. What I'm saying is not news.
> Time stopping at the event horizon is quite the standard view in "science communication" of black holes.
That's because "science communication" sucks at accurately portraying the actual science.
Completely agree.