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Isn't this the nature of most "dating" apps/sites?

Men need the illusion of the service having many women members in order to join & pay.

Therefore..

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No. Tinder and similar actually make dates happen, a lot.

There are even a few niche ones where only the women can start a “match”.

Bumble was famous for only women starting a match but, like the rest of the online dating industry, Bumble has had a dramatic drop in participation in the last few years. There was this incident which got a lot of press

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cz4xx2rw0leo

there was less press that they had given up on the "women make the first move" paradigm just before that

https://www.cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make...

In the last 10 years, I've noted when couples mention that they met on Tinder. It's getting to 50% ! This isn't necessarily married couples, but established relationships (1yr+), nonetheless.

I met my wife on Tinder. In some countries Tinder is less a hookup app and actually a dating app.

I also met my wife on Tinder. Although to be fair it was initially a FWB thing that quickly turned into more.

Are you saying that when couples note how they met without being prompted, it is approaching 50% total over the last 10 years? That would imply that there is a significant increase currently over 10 years ago when you first started noting this matter in order to get close to 50% now.

I also have to assume that a factor that would need to be investigated is whether it isn’t simply that people who met on tinder like telling people that for some reason, possibly because they are the transgressive, rotating door, “hookup culture” types that would have a proclivity for using something like Tinder.

> Are you saying that when couples note how they met without being prompted, it is approaching 50% total over the last 10 years?

I was not specific about when I asked or if it was unprompted. I qualify that the relationship has to have begun <10 years ago.

I don't doubt that this could be true. I also don't doubt that your comment could have been generated by a tinder-bot.

With hundreds of reasonable non-Tinder related comments going back to 2018? https://news.ycombinator.com/threads?id=Supermancho

I agree that the comments are too high in quality to have been generated by a bot.

Also, no mentions of Tinder in any of the other of this last 30 comments.

I'm not saying no one is finding matches on these sites.

I am pointing out that this not the first or the last "dating" site to inflate female numbers with bots to keep men engaged.

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