That seems to be the essence of your argument here.
(None of those wars are directly analogous to what Russia is doing to Ukraine right now of course; but never mind that for now).
And yes, the wars were not directly analogous but the stark reality of the matter is that the US and RUssia are two of the world bullies that are capable of invading anyone they like, and nobody can do anything about it. Again: why should I like one more than the other? Why should anyone, who is not their citizen?
One shouldn't, and both should be condemned of course.
And not apologized for, like you are doing here.
To be even more clear: those nations include Russia, the US, China, and basically every other national entity with an army that you might want to propose.
For the record, I also dislike, strongly, people on the internet who cannot hold a conversation without insulting their interlocutor, or accusing them of some perceived mind crime.
If that's not what they were, then I misread them. In regard to the peace negotiations -- it does seem (from some of the sibling threads) like you're very quick to grant the Russian side a pass, and to assign an unduly high a likelihood to the possibility that the Ukrainian/Western side simply botched their end of it (because Boris, etc). An assessment that just doesn't hold up in view of how the Russians conducted themselves during those negotiations, as the person responding to you pointed out:
Check also: Germany, South Korea and Japan have more American militiamen stationed there than the active duty personnel of the majority of the countries in the world.
You seem to be implying equivalence between a thousand soldier operation and a full scale war comprising of half a million soldiers on both sides.