> "[get good grades =] college degree = white collar job = comfortable middle-class lifestyle"
It's not entirely, but mostly a lie omitting AI & automation, outsourcing, and the crushing debt of college loans. The end resulting job ladder has to be worth the opportunity cost of time and investment of treasure and debt.
Working with your hands in skilled trade probably can't be replaced anytime soon while office jobs are waiting for the other shoe to drop for layoffs.
0. Apprentice somewhere surrounded by people who are passionate about excellence and integrity.
1. Find a local area that needs a large enough niche(s) such as automotive mechanic A/C-electric, commercial HVAC, or jet turbine overhauling and own your own business when you can rather than being an employee.
The other thing that has to change is women discriminating against men who don't have Master's degree, don't work in an office jobs, and/or aren't already decamillionaires because it's one of the subtle, unrealistic pressures placed on 20- to 30-something men who are often sent mixed messages about lacking academic achievement they're systematically dissuaded from pursuing.