If you do that then you're considering 2 collisions, ie. you're considering 2 cars, both hitting a brick wall at 50mph. The assumption therefore is that the force felt by the wall is not great enough to overcome the inertia of the wall, therefore each vehicle does not exert any force on the opposing vehicle.
It's the same as saying that if you drive 2 cars into the same wall at 50mph the force felt by each driver is not the same as driving a single car into a wall at 100mph.
That is true obviously.
However if there isn't a perfectly immovable "piece of paper" in between the 2 cars, then you can't just ignore the force acting on each car, from the other car.
F = ma
Also, Newton's 3rd law states that forces generate equal and opposite forces.
So if you punch a wall, you are exerting a force on the wall, and the wall is exerting an equal and opposing force on your hand.
When car A hits car B going 50mph, the force is the mass of the car times the acceleration required to stop the car (ie. deceleration, acceleration in the opposite direction).
However that force is matched by a force in the other direction PLUS the force of each car attempting to decelerate the other car.
You have 2 forces for each car: the force felt by car A as car B tries to accelerate it in the direction car B was travelling, and the force felt by car B from car A that opposes that force, and vice versa.
So if we assume the cars are driving in an Elon Musk hyperloop tunnel under Vegas in a straight line then yeah, the forces felt by the drivers in each vehicle is the same for a car driving 100mph into a "brick wall" (or more accurately a big pile of bricks the same size and shape as a car with equivalent mass).