There are very real reasons why writing raw SQL is a pain. You can make arguments about typesafety of queries, maintainability, mapping into application level data structures/types yadayada. Imho the primary argument is that you cannot efficiently write a query that doesn't suffer from duplication of data. If you have an entity A that has many B's, and that same entity A also has many C's, then if you join on both you now are loading A * B * C rows. This is going to be slow too, and is difficult to detangle.
ORMs in their current form are terrible at tackling this problem, and people are right to call them out for that. "Just" lazy loading or "just" eager loading both do not scale, nor does doing firing event listeners on a per-entity basis. But rawdogging SQL is not a viable solution either, and I wish people advocating that would stop this attitude of 'oh you prissy dev using your puny ORM, not willing to write a line of SQL, look at me with my glorious hair on my chest and superior intellect writing pristine queries'.