My opinion on ML is that there is nothing in the execution planning side that couldn't be modeled and solved as a linear program, with extremely fast and mathematically-optimal results. By trying to use ML for the planning part, you're really just using ML to reverse engineer LP solvers, and it is a poor use of the compute resources.
The reason why some ML planners might have better results than typical SQL query planners is because typical SQL engines are optimized towards OLTP workloads that require small transactions executed very quickly. In order to do that, they purposefully don't explore the true planning space...they might explore 3-10 alternative ways of executing, whereas there might be hundreds or thousands of ways to do the same thing. While Postgres has explicitly chosen to not implement planning pragmas to override planner behavior, it would be really cool if you could have multiple planners optimized for different types of workloads, and be able to explicitly choose a query planner that takes 3 seconds to plan for a query that takes 1hr to execute and for which a better plan could save several minutes. I would even love a fairly naive query planner which does index scans for a deterministic and exact cardinality before planning joins.
BTW, I really like your blog and your research focuses. You're working on exceptionally hard problems that have a huge impact on computing.