Im with you. Once the money problem is taken care of, there are far more important things to factor in.
Unfortunately US culture is very money orientated, and so, especially to young developers (and quite a few older ones) it's the only factor.
I remember a long time ago a local "big name" consultancy firm came to our Uni to recruit. He said all the right things, told us about international travel, great pay, good benefits, every material delight you could hope for.
But he looked tired. Like really tired. Turns out he'd been doing a consulting gig on thd other side of the world. 12 hours time difference. 2 weeks there, never left the hotel/office. Got home last night. Today is back at work. After 30-odd hours of travel.
That spoke to me, and helped me see that the company matters more than the money. I ended up with a good job, where we knock off at the end of every day. Where we didnt have multiple layers of management. And very few meetings.
Obviously I'm too old to work at a FANG now, but honestly, I think I would be a very bad fit for that environment.
The secret to avoiding burnout is to enjoy your work. Sure some of it is just work, but you gotta wanna go. I wish you much luck in finding as good a fit as I did.