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Level 4: here is a check so you could hire someone to help you look after your dad.

That's level 1, making it about yourself :)

How is it? It's a direct help.

Because the point is to listen, not solve problems.

If you told me "ugh today was a really hard day at work" and I said "why don't you quit? then you wouldn't have hard days at work anymore!" would you feel heard?

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