Pay for “gold” for one week, go incognito and swipe selectively. Then go dark (aka pause the account) for a few weeks. I yield probably 1 in 5 match. I’m a mid 40s decent looking guy with a few headshots. Did it a couple of rounds and met someone awesome.
They prioritize new upgraders for exposure, but it wears off quickly to make you buy boosts.
Key tips:
- Avoid profiles that are too good, especially pictures. Nothing worse than professional daters.
- Look for undervalued assets! Sometimes modest or poorly shot pictures don’t jump out.
- Pretend you’re speaking to a crowd with your profile. Keep it light and vague. The goal is a connection, so adding filter material only hurts you.
- Keep the pictures of you and simple. No groups, kids, fish, flexing a Porsche that isn’t yours, etc. Don’t try to tell a pictorial story, few will get it.
- On the flip avoid people dumping details. You won’t beat a checklist.
- Have a healthy hell no. It doesn’t matter how hot she is. In jail, substance abuse, things that are issues for you are issues. If you can’t deal with single parents, etc. Swipe left.
- If you’re not into or curious about ENM, kink, etc, and thats in the profile, swipe left.
Dating sites are like smoking. They’ll lure you into the little dopamine hits of swiping. The way to win that game is not to play. You want 1-2 matches while wasting as little time as possible.
If you have spoken to more than a half dozen people and everyone is awful, the problem is you. Figure out what you want, rinse, repeat.