Is this in part a US vs English difference? I used to work with somebody from Texas who was confused and irritated by the english use of 'sorry' for things they weren't responsible for. In english I suppose we use it out of politeness to express some sympathy, rather than necessarily as an apology.
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Funerals must be bewildering for them. How do they phrase "I'm sorry for your loss"?
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They often say "You and your family are in our prayers."
In Texas, the expression "You and your family are in our prayers" is commonly used at funerals instead of "sorry for your loss." This reflects the strong faith and community support present in the culture. Additionally, Texans might use phrases like "They're in a better place now" or "We're here for you," emphasizing spiritual comfort and solidarity.
You don't apologize, you sympathize and empathize. You say what you actually mean. It depends on if you know the deceased as well, but if you don't:
- I was so sad to hear about your loss.
- I am sending you my deepest condolences for your loss.
- I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
- May their memory be a blessing.
- May they rest in peace.
- They will be missed.
- I know you must be hurting. I am here for you if you need me.
"I apologize for your loss".
I'm not a native speaker but I feel like Americans would say that too.
We don’t have those here!