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Wouldn't it be nice to hear all the lovely things friends and family might say about us at our funeral?

No, you weirdo Guardian journalists, it would not. Because I'm not dead. And when my funeral does happen, I may be the theme, but it will not really be about me. It'll be about the living getting together and comforting one another. Or about whatever they want. Because I'll be dead.

What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch?

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A random event someone organizes for themselves? Yeah, weird. But did you skip the part where this is for terminal ill people to gather family and say their goodbyes?

You wouldn't want to hear your friends share their favorite memories of you when you're on your deathbed?

Call it a celebration of life instead of a funeral

Does everything need to be a celebration? Birthdays, weddings, baby showers, wedding-birthdays, stag do,... That's already plenty of opportunities for a narcissist to hear compliments from their friends in public.

You sound like you don't have any friends and that's sad.

You sound like I offended you. Are you a narcissist?

Nothing like a good ad hominem to try to make a point, eh?

You French are so combative.

You sound bitter.

> What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch?

This, as currently worded, is a criticism of birthday parties as well

I've never been to a birthday party where the birthday boy/girl gathers people to do that. What's the point in subtracting value from a conversation with this distraction?

What's the point of judging the actions of people about to die?

Everyone is about to die, nothing special about it

That simply is not true. Terminal patients have a deadline, you have a nebulous time somewhere in the future.

If you knew for a fact you were gonna die tomorrow, would you still go into work?

You need to define judging? Do you mean "voicing an opinion"?

I don't know how I would handle a terminal diagnosis so I refrain from "voicing an opinion" on the actions of those about to die.

> What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch?

I don't know--this seems pretty consistent with our society's growing self-absorption and narcissism. A living funeral falls squarely within today's "I Am The Main Character" vibe.

> within today's "I Am The Main Character" vibe.

That's a very western phenomenon, though. Maybe even very American...

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