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Comment by legitster | Hacker News Reader

Unrelated, can we stop using the term "gaslight" so much? It hit out collective lexicon so hard and has been rubbed of any meaning. Just use lie, mislead, or any other more accurate but less trendy words.

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I think it’s used correctly.

I’ve asked this same question when leaders have had entire webinars about how awesome the office is and how nice it is to be back to work. I’m still not sure if their work life is just that different from mine, or they are super stupid, or they are gaslighting.

It’s made worse as they interview 20 employees and every one of them talks about how much better the office is than remote. And then me and every coworker I know feels differently.

It's not the same though. Saying "I have a girlfriend, she just lives in Canada" is a lie. Pointing at a blue pen and saying "this is a red pen" is gaslighting.

That's his point though, 95% of the time people say "gaslighting" now it's not the right term.

I see it mostly used correctly, though?

But I don't browse Twitter nor Tiktok. So that may be a factor I am spared from.

I only really browse here and I feel like it's used correctly. Either the bosses know you know they're lying about RTO or they just think we're idiots. When they kill people's teams and say "you're not fired, you just have to find another job yourself in the same company. You have 3 months." or "we're not firing you, we're just moving your job to the other side of the country and you have to work at the office." that's gaslighting. They're just trying to make you believe you're not fired so they don't have to pay you.

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